Are you getting it tough to please your woman and don’t know what you should go with? Do you feel that your relationship isn’t that sparkly how it used to be one or two years earlier? Does your woman complain that you have become a slacker and don’t do anything for her sake? Well, it seems to one of the most common problems of men in relationships and it has been discussed a number of times on the internet. There are numberless articles already written about such issues and there are thousands of relationship gurus who promise to solve your problems but the irony is that your problems are still as it was earlier and there are lakhs of people like you who are still seeking for the right advice to improve their relationships’ status. But you don’t need to worry at all as I am here to help you with the same. I will tell you what the difference between first and the third year of a relationship is. Why everything in the first year of a relationship looks magical and extraordinary and why it suddenly becomes so uninteresting and complaining in the following years. I will tell you what are the things you do to impress your woman in the first year of relationship and what you start ignoring in the following years. What are the things that make your married life sparkly and retain it new as well as young forever?
You will be surprised to know that the problem begins with you, the men’s psychology, the way they think about a woman as well as the myths they believe. It’s your attitude about a particular subject that makes it a blessing for you as well as a headache. Yes, it’s you who can make your relationship do magic and remain extraordinary for years and also it’s you only who can mess up everything and make it worse like hell if you wish. Now you will be wondering about who will wish to spoil his own relationship and you believe that not a single man with such desires exists. Are sure? Are really sure that nobody wishes that to happen? Well, I would like to tell you that there would be none of the divorce and separation cases would exist if a man will take a vow that he won’t let that happen. Yes, it’s the careless perception of the man about his relationship that it’s completely a woman’s responsibility to maintain a relationship and he doesn’t need to do anything for that. He thinks that he’s married the woman and his job is done. He thinks that he has given her two babies and it’s completely her job to bring them up. It’s a man who thinks that he is earning money enough to run the family he doesn’t need to give anything else to his woman. It’s a man who thinks that he is the leader of the family and his partner is just a follower. He thinks that he only has all the rights to decide the goodness of the family and he doesn’t need to consult with anyone. He’s a weird mentality about the woman that she is made just for the kitchen and her field is limited to the household jobs. He thinks that the advice of the woman aren’t worthy and she can’t take good decisions for the family. But, he is all wrong and here only he mistakes the ability and potential of a woman, He also fails to understand the emotional need of a woman and left her bereft with her emotional thirst leading to a completely messed up and shattered relationship.
Now that you have got that scattered men to have some responsibilities to maintain their relationships, you are also supposed to co-operate with the woman in order to keep your as magical as it was during the first year. But most probably you are still not clear with what you actually need to do and how can you make the things easier to save your relationship. Well, if you are completely clueless, I am here to help you with the same. I am going to tell you some tricks that are not much new but you might have stopped using after the first year of your relationship. You might haven’t noticed why everything was magical and just perfect in the beginning and why it got all messed up in just one year of your relationship. The answer is surprising but very obvious. Yes, though you might not have been aware of but you were using those magical tricks in the beginning of your relationship and suddenly you stopped using it. Suddenly one morning when you woke up, you forgot all the virtues of your woman that have been appealing you, you forgot all the sacrifices she has been making to keep your relationship alive and extraordinary, you forgot all the things that your woman like and dislike and you forgot all the efforts you made to please your woman each and every time. And that was the day when it all started and your relationship has come to this embarrassing stage today. But it’s never too late to improve your mistake and you can do it even now. I am giving you few of magical relationship tips you need to follow on.
Friendship Your Partner: As per a study every adult is more or less associated with a swing of relationship troubles, including obsession, jealousy, and emotional highs and lows but the good news is that, regardless of your present situation, you can be more securely attached, or connected, to your partner by developing a deeper friendship. All you need to do is to incrementally spend more time with your partner doing something you both enjoy. Also, you should regularly ask for updates about her likes, dislikes, current stressors as well as new interests, as people and their opinions change over time.
Appreciate Her Regularly: Do you remember the time when you had just started dating your woman? Do you remember how you used to make extra efforts to impress her? Appreciation is a catalyst that boosts the enthusiasm of any woman and she gets to work for her relationship with a greater sense of gratitude. If you have no idea what to compliment about, compliment her about the daily works she does for you. You can tell her that she looks great, I am damn sure every woman likes to be complimented by her man about her looks. Say her “thanks” every time when she reminds you to call your mother. You can also complement her for organizational skills when you get home to find your room in a just perfect condition.
Don’t Distort: Researchers have revealed that the unhappy couples focus on the negatives in their relationships and they underestimate the occurrence of pleasurable events in their relationships by 50%. My tip to overcome this dangerous situation is that when the time you have a negative thought about something she has done, you should try to come up with a more neutral explanation for her actions. You should also consider whether you would judge yourself in the same manner if the situation were reversed. Moreover, you also should remember yourself that often of your good times have been spent with her only.
Share Your Plans: When a man consults his woman before taking a decision for his family, it makes a woman believe that she is valuable and her advice are important for her man. Next time when you are planning to change your car or going to buy an insurance policy, do look for the opinion of your partner even if you know that it’s just perfect and you have come up with the final decision. Be it your personal life or your professional life; do ask her once before make your mind for a particular decision. This will not only boost her trust for you but also it will help her to let you make the decisions for her.
Understand Anger: The outbursts of anger are much common even in healthy relationships but when anger becomes an entrenched part of your relationship, you should be concerned. As per Sue Johnson, master therapist and expert of emotion-focused therapy, anger are a secondary emotion and other primary emotions, such as the fear of being abandoned or sadness, can be found on an angry face. You should think back on the last argument you had with her and use this new knowledge to find out hidden messages in what you and your partner were each trying to communicate. Try to attempt to disregard the angry tone you both used and try to understand what you both were actually trying to say and you will be surprised to find out that both of you have many similar needs. For example, if she says,” We never go out!” may actually mean that she is willing to go out with you today.
Find Out Common Goals: As per a study in the UK, 25% of the couples are reported to no longer have the same goals. The situation represents a ticking time bomb, as the research has revealed that the couples who share dreams and goals have longer-lasting and more satisfying relationships. If you feel like that you have been out of sync lately with your partner on this front, you should discuss your philosophy of life together. The aim of this discussion is of you to share what both of you want your life to be about, where you want to end up and what these things mean to you. You should also look for the things that are common between the two of you so that you can talk about the ways to work towards that aspiration together.