On a Friday night; while Mick and Stella were sitting on the couch, watching TV, Stella said, “We never go out”. This was a general statement or kind of complaint; but as Mick heard this, he was furious. He started naming the places he had taken in last few weeks. He even told her that they had gone for a dinner just on the previous weekend. While on one side Mick can’t get why she said like that; on another hand, Stella has no idea what wrong she did that made him so furious.
This is a common problem of millions of couples facing the same problem, the problem of misinterpretation of statements. At times, a sentence is said by a person and it’s mistaken by its partner. His or her partner takes those words in a way he or she had never meant or thought about. In order to prevent such misinterpretations, a man should know that a women’s language is much different from men’s language.
What does a Man think?
When a man hears the complaints like “We never go out” from his partner; he takes it as an allegation of not doing his duties honestly. It may sound to him like, “You are not doing your job. What a disappointment you have turned out to be. We never do anything together because you are lazy, unromantic and just boring.” But that might not be what she actually meant as a woman who loves her man neither makes such an allegation nor does anything that may upset his partner. Then, what did she mean actually and why did said like that. Let’s find out the real cause.
What do a Women mean?
When a woman says, “We never go out”; what she actually means is, “I feel like going out and doing something together. We always are such a fun and I love being with you. What do you think? Would you take me out to dinner? It has been a few days since we went out together. ” This is quite a typical a woman makes to her husband or lover and you have got that there was nothing to be furious. But with the given interpretation, the sentence looks incomplete and may make a man upset when hearing the things that sound like an allegation more than a request.
How to understand different languages?
Actually, the men and women speak different languages. Yes, I know that it’s little hard to believe, but it’s nothing less than a fact. By saying different languages, I mean the different tendencies of men and women to think about a particular issue, to react differently on a particular issue and to express them differently.
How do Men think?
Usually, men are less talkative and like to express themselves in minimum words. You can say that they are straightforward and more likely to express directly what they mean. For example, if a man likes to discuss an important issue with his partner; he will ask, “Honey, please sit here for a while. I have something important to discuss with you.” Or he will just say, “Dear, I have something I want you to listen.” But Women aren’t like men. Let’s find out how a woman thinks or expresses herself on the same issue.
How do Women think?
Women are much different than man; according to their physical as well as psychological approach. Usually, women are a bit more emotional than men may get hurt more easily for the same reason. Hence they are a little protective about their preferences and choices and don’t want to be rejected at any cost. They take the rejection of an idea as a kind of humiliation for them. Before bringing a proposal to her partner; she wants to ensure that her man will take her more sincerely and will give her proper attention. And that’s the main reason why she morphs the words in a way that may more attention from her man. She avoids using ordinary words and goes for the words that can make her statements or requests more impressive. If she uses the words that may sound aggressive to the man, her man may think that she is going angry unnecessarily but may not actually mean it.
How Should Men Interpret Women?
Now you have got that men and women may think and react differently on a particular issue, the biggest challenge comes here, to interpret a woman in the right way. I am telling you few ways how you can do that properly.
Respect the Opinion: As I have also mentioned above that women are more sensitive than men; they may get hurt easily. They think emotionally and get completely attached to the person they love. When a woman loves her man, she gets completely attached with him and her opinion as well as response matters too much for her. The response and attention she gets from her man, she takes it as a parameter for her importance in the life of his man. Hence, in order to exhibit that you love your woman and she is important to you; you should show proper interest and hear her opinion patiently even if it’s a problem you can’t help her with.
Understand the Need: Second thing is to understand the need of making a move she is insisting or requesting. First of all, you should hear her patiently and think what all the reasons for making such a move are. You should discuss the cause as well as the objective of a particular move and re-think whether you both need to make such a move or not.
Take It Easy: Next, you have to react politely after you have analyzed about the necessity of making a decision. If you have come to know it’s a good move and you both certainly should think towards implementing this; you should appraise your woman for coming up with such a brilliant idea. And even if you have analyzed that it’s an idea that’s not going to work; you shouldn’t panic and tell her the ways it can be done more easily and effectively. I am sure she is certainly going to like your improved behavior.