Truly said, the mind is the first sexual organ. It’s only our mind which controls every bit of our body, body parts, their functioning, every bit of changes happening in our body. The mind operates at two levels — (a) Conscious and (b) Subconscious. The subconscious mind controls most of the functions in our body that includes breathing, heartbeats, digestion, hormone balance, body growth and whatnot. While the conscious mind controls our active thinking, what we see, what we hear, our reasoning etc.
I have mentioned in another post “Men’s Survival Instincts — The Most Powerful Magnet To Attract Any Women” that’s how these two levels of mind work together. So, there is a logical chain of steps which can lead to psychological erectile dysfunction in men. These steps (more or less) are as below–
- Step 1: You start thinking that women are somewhat at a higher level than yours. You start giving importance to women and you start feeling low in front of them. You start becoming conscious around women, start giving importance to what they’ll think about you, you just start worrying about it.
- Step 2: Your confidence level start decreasing around women, your heartbeat automatically starts growing when women come near you.
- Step 3: Your attention starts shifting from your arousal/stimulation to your nervousness. And you start losing your arousal, erections, and your mind started occupying with worries.
- Step 4: All this situation is recorded by your sub-conscious mind. Initially, the sub-conscious mind will take it as just a new information and don’t work upon it.
- Step 5: When the same thing happens repeatedly, then the sub-conscious mind starts talking as a rule. Now, even when you are with a most familiar partner, the sub-conscious mind does not allow you to feel free, your heart, your mind will react in the same way. Now, the situation is serious. (Not that much serious, so it can’t be reversed)
- Step 6: Your situation seems permanent. You start accepting from inside that you just can’t stand erect and stay calm in front of women. And anxiety and unknown fear will take your all mind.
Besides this chain of steps, there is another factor which leads to psychological erectile dysfunction, and that is related to the level of stimulation you require to get an erection. Here are those steps–
- Step 1: You saw some women in sexy revealing clothes, and you start to feel the pleasure out of it. A desire comes in to see more.
- Step 2: You start looking for more revealing pictures on the internet and magazines. And that gave you more pleasure.
- Step 3: You went ahead and start looking at nude pictures and videos. Then you move to porn.
- Step 4: You get exposed to different types of porn. This takes your stimulation at a higher level and once your stimulation level becomes higher than pictures of women in revealing clothes will not appeal to you. Those pictures will be boring to you.
- Step 5: Your sub-conscious mindset your arousal level to the level of hardcore porn. And you need to watch those beautiful women in those high arousal, sensual activities to get aroused and erections.
- Step 6: When a normal real life woman comes in front of you, even nude, then also that real women are far behind the level of the highly sensual scene in a porno, so the simulation doesn’t reach the level at which you feel aroused. And hence… no erection at all.
These are the two main causes of men’s psychological erectile dysfunction. If you can see yourself in anyone or even both situations, then for sure you have a mental blockage to your erection problem. In order to self-examine yourself against psychological erection dysfunction then you need to ask yourself questions like these —
- Do I am worried about my looks in front of women?
- Do I am conscious about what women think about me?
- Do I feel like I am at a low level than any women is?
- Do I am conscious about what I speak in front of women?
- Do I get confused on what to do, what to say, how to answer, how to phrase my words in front of women?
- Is my heartbeat start running faster when women come near me?
- Do I think that my mind stops working when a woman is around me?
- Do I think that it’s kind of phobia I do have for women?
- Is my nervousness taking charge of me when I am around women?
- Do I watch more porn stuff than it is normal?
- Do I spare dedicated time to watch porn?
- Is my stimulation level is higher than a normal real woman can stimulate with a half-naked body?
- Is face and skin of real women not appealing enough to trigger my arousal?
- Do I desire in my heart for real women, but my body needs a higher level of stimulation?
- Can I stay out of virtual stimulation for 2-3 weeks easily?
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We all men, those who are suffering from the mental stress problem, are lucky enough that we can fix it within a month’s time. Yes, I really said it right. A scientific study suggests that we can change our belief at sub-conscious mind within 21 days of conscious daily repeated auto-suggestions. Following are the words and sentences you need to auto-suggest (talk to yourself) and feel that what you are saying to yourself is true right now (Take deep breaths with every sentence and imagine as if it is happening now) —
- I am a macho man and I can do hard sex.
- I am as equally important as any women on the planet is.
- I am confident enough to be myself anywhere, anytime.
- I am manly enough to overpower any women.
- I keep my focus on my pleasure and my partner’s pleasure.
- I can control my mind and my mind hears me very seriously.
- I can guide my mind to control my body, my emotions, and my reactions.
- I know myself that I am really a macho man and I can stand erect in form of my partner.
- My partner also wants me as I want myself.
- I and my partner are equal beings, just like close friends.
- I believe in real things, real people, real sessions.
- I am bold and confident enough to win my partner in life and in bed as well.
You can add such points according to your own usual words, your own mother tongue, at your own most emotional words. The important thing to note here is to avoid words like not, don’t, __ free, or any other word with is negative. Always use positive words. Talk to yourself in front of a mirror and repeat these sentences, feel them inside you, let your inner strong personality come out, keep that personality as long as you can. By doing all that, you are transforming yourself into a real macho man.
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