It is not that women cannot secure themselves; it is also not that they are not mentally or physically strong enough to protect self and children. In fact, women are the MOST powerful creators on Earth. Don’t take it personally, face it boldly. I strongly believe that there is no other powerful living being exists on the planet more than women. Woman’s mind and their emotions make them more powerful.
Women understand people, animals, behaviors, psychology, relationship, and most importantly the true meaning of love. And this makes them more powerful. Women mind lack in mathematical, science and technical things, but these are men’s forte in general. I see women as the top manager and men as a worker in the company of life. It’s women who most of the times show the right direction and men when follow it never regrets. Women, in general, know the fact which person is good and which is not so well for her family.
All these mental capabilities (emotional understandings and knowledge of other people’s heart) of the female come from their very basic need of Security. Here I am not talking about just women; I am talking about animals as well. Females of many species where they live in groups (such as bear, lion, and much more) have multiple partners to fool all males to whom children belong. And all the time all the male accept all the children as their own and protect them equally. Some species keep the bonding between couple strong enough and the male becomes devoted to protecting his children. There are hundreds of variations found in animals, almost every animal species have their unique way to protect self and their children. And in almost all cases, it’s female who takes serious steps for protection. All this comes from the female’s core requirement of security.
There is a popular say about women —” No one can understand women”. But I believe, if we, “men”, keep women’s need for security in mind, then we can understand most of the women’s moves if not all.
Women’s need for security and relationship with men
First, understand this — women will always give the highest priority to her security and her survival. Now, start asking questions like these —
- What kind of men will any women prefer?
Now, the answer is obvious. women will prefer a man who is–
- Capable of earning money or quality life. I must write a whole chapter on what does quality life mean to women.
- Capable of taking right decisions; someone who has higher mental endurance capabilities.
- Confident, courageous and bold who can take up her stand and fight whenever required.
- Someone who is really an Alpha male and for sure Macho men too.
- How will a woman take it when her man doesn’t perform well at earning?
Definitely, she doesn’t like it. She starts fearing, loose hopes, she’ll start taking the pressure. And she’ll then come forward to seek some methods where she can help her family by earning some money. She’ll support her men seriously, as it is really hard for women to cut herself from her family. Her family life is her security; her men are her protector and the greatest help in bringing up her children. She definitely thinks seriously about ways to earn money, she’ll work extra and somehow try to manage the situation. Now, just imagine… What will happen if women see her men is careless about earning?? I am sure; she’ll hate him for it. But women are always hopeful, if she knows that her men are capable of earning money but he is just lazy at the moment, then she’ll take some serious steps to wake him up.
- How will a woman take if her man is not performing well in bed?
The very first thing she will do is… Know the fact. She’ll seriously start thinking why her men are not performing well in bed. If she found that it’s physical, then she’ll take her men to the doctor (boldly). And if she found it is mental like her men lose interest in her, then it is a serious setback to her. She’ll take it seriously and will do all she can do to take you back. Another reason could be psychological dysfunction, may be some anxiety of an armature, or some thoughts (may be kinky thoughts) making her men nervous. Then she’ll start her mind machine to inquire the truth. In any case, women will stay with her men until she hates him for other reasons or she is damn after her physical needs more than anything else (though it is an extremely rare case).
- How will a woman take her family life?
Another simple question, but most men just don’t understand because they are unfamiliar with the fact that security is the women’s biggest need. Women take family life very seriously, she always makes attempts to make family life better, they always wish better living standard, better food, better home, better & safe society, better reputation, enjoyment, relaxation and everything better. Why? Because deep inside her mind, women know the great phrase from great scientist Herbert Spencer which says … “Survival Of The Fittest”.
And what is Security to men?
A man is essentially a fool who sees instant (on-the-spot) security is secure. Most men are not farsighted. They live in present, easily forget the past, and rarely think about the future. Most men live in today. If they have food, money, reputation today, then they are very happy with it, even if they see that their resources are going to vanish soon.
Most men make conscious efforts to earn more money, better health, better relationships, but they are not backed up with a sense of security. They are backed up with the gain and the benefits they will have.
If you can see the difference, then women see more of insecurity, more of stress, seriousness, more of downside. And men see the brighter side, lightness, and more of an upside. This is the core reason why most women are emotional fools. This is the reason why women want to talk over an issue for several days and a man just walks ahead quickly from there.
Women just can’t help it. Their most decisions, thoughts, emotions, and actions are backed up by insecurity. If women keep her men out of some mess, then she must be knowing that this will be a torture to her men and this will make her men somewhat down in life, and she really wants a better life for her men, herself and beyond any doubt for her children.