Sometimes you feel things you can not identify? This sensation is mentioned in the article that follows!
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Table of Contents
- Why do not you know how you feel?
- What to do to connect with what you feel?
He often feels some confusion about his emotions. If you do not know how you feel in certain circumstances, it’s not because you have problems. Or because something is wrong. This phenomenon is much more common than is generally thought. And you should not feel uncomfortable on this point.
However, that does not mean that you can not do something to remedy the situation. Knowing why you are sometimes blind to your own emotions will help you understand what is happening to you and act in awareness. For this, you can follow a series of steps to better understand how you feel at these moments.
For starters, it’s important to note that many people do not know how they feel because they can not interpret the signals of their body. Normally, we connect emotion with feeling. However, all emotions start with a physiological sensation. This means that whether you know what is happening to you or not, you may be aware of an emotion related to what is happening to you physically.
Your intelligence may be confused, but your feelings will never lie to you.”— Roget Ebert.
Why do not you know how you feel?
In what follows, we will see a simple explanation of why we sometimes do not know what we are feeling. Learning this theory will help you better identify your emotions, manage them more effectively and live them more consciously.
1- You are feeling the emotion
In the first moments when we begin to feel an emotion, it is not always easy to identify it. The physical response (the first response of our body) can be confusing or not be identified as the consequence of an emotional
Sometimes the reaction is so unexpected that we do not understand what is happening. There is even a moment when being aware that we are experiencing an emotion is almost more important than identifying the emotion itself.
2- Feel more of
an emotion in a strange “fusion” of feelings
If you sometimes do not know how you feel when there is only one emotion in you, imagine how complicated it is to understand you when two of them have merged. Both can result in a mixture that is difficult to understand.
This competition of emotions can lead to a certain misery and confusion , not knowing what is happening inside us. For example, if you feel pain and anger at the same time, the feelings can be so powerful that you will feel paralyzed or helpless in front of them.
3- You can not find a verbal way to express how you feel
Sometimes, what you feel is a mixture of emotions that you can not name, either because you do not know it or because there is no way to name it, at least not in your language.
In this case, it is helpful to separate your feelings into basic emotions that compose them, in order to better understand them.
4- You feel this emotion for the first time
It is normal for you to feel confused when you have a feeling for the first time. It can even scare you. It can also lead to error, and confuse this emotion with something else.
Happily, this is cured by experience: the more you feel, the easier it will be to recognize it.
5- You feel a total detachment of your feelings
The dissociation can occur for several reasons, but the most common is that in the past you’ve repressed your feelings as a defense mechanism. This makes it much more difficult to understand what you will feel in the future.
In general, this starts as an attempt not to experience negative emotions, but ends up extending until we are unable to feel anything.
What to do to connect with what you feel?
The first thing you need to do to connect your emotions is to be aware that they are there and let them emerge. And even if it’s not always easy, sometimes it’s as easy as breathing and letting emotions circulate. When this is complicated, mindfulness meditation can help.
To connect with what we feel requires to connect with ourselves. But of course, if you see that the situation has become very complicated, there is no problem in asking for help. Sometimes all we need to reconnect with our feelings is the support of someone outside.
“The more we are open to our own feelings, the better we can read those of others.”–Daniel Goleman